He invited me to his place. Though I would say one more thing: are your expectations realistic? Some of them were not too great and none of them resulted in a love connection. Very sporadic communication. And it ends there. Bp. There are lots more out there. He works 3 jobs, so I know hes busy. I have asked him when he will come to visit me, and his response was when he can get a free date. Several times I have tried to draw a line in the sand with his hot and cold demeanor and Houdini act. Press J to jump to the feed. What should I do???. I should say we both had a rough year he finally departed from the ex and I had a disasterous five months relationship where the guy rushed in and rushed me too fast. Learn more, work on your own resources and your self-esteem and respect. He doesnt owe me anything. Im sure that will help you a lot in the future, girlfriend. You are not getting to know him and you wont until you meet him. He apologized and said he went straight to sleep after work, and said that was not him who honked. Like I say in my article, simply texting (and even just phone calls) dont mean much. You should only text a girl every day if you're already sleeping together a lot or are boyfriend and girlfriend, or at least friends with benefits. Their responses are shorter and less enthusiastic. I am worried i am being strung along and will get hurt. Ill be honest, that kind of turned me off because I dont want to be the only one asking and planning. Bp. We still wanted to meet in person and now that Ive thrown it out there he has not replied. Bp. He also stated he was just taking things slow. so I gave up. Dont answer. He said I will text you when Im home. We began texting, and I learned that he recently moved from very far away to care of his dying mother. If you're texting your boyfriend when you're both at work during the week to stay in touch, that makes sense and is totally cool. Doubt it. Just the wyd texted. He has been patient and understands about my situation. You dont need to publish this, but just for your research on this topic. I dont love him ( but I would)I love energy comes from him when I get close. Does it sound as positive as i feel it is? If you've been questioning why he's been hitting your inbox every day, know for sure what it means below. Hed get mad at me for some stupid reason. I understand things end but I feel so used and he strung me along and I also do not understand how he can say he cares about me abd always will whether I know it or not? I But I didnt go because I got scared of doing this. He has two kids by the way. He kept repeating he finish at 10. and then he said he might end earlier like 9.30 so i changed the time to 10. My suggestion, Tell him youd like to meet up or stop communicating. (but no concrete date) I was feeling a little bit annoyed that I had to push this man to action all the time! I think you know the answer, Mary. One day we were texting throughout the whole day and he formally and directly said that he wanted to meet me as he was interested in me. The following week same thing. Hi Christina. I was introduced to a guy by mutual friends about 4 months ago. I actually created a false relationship thinking he might be interested in me since he is texting me everyday. He can say whatever he wants but if hes not seeing you theres nothing to build on. He lives back in my hometown, and Im three hours away, so weve only hung out twice. Sorry SoCal but you made a lot of mistakes here. Hes a great guy inside and out. I met him at a festival through my friends introduction. But also continue to do what you did: let him know what you need. So every time I said something and didnt feel fully understood, I started not to fold when I felt rejection. Hugs, Bp, Hi. You dont want to waste your time with a pen pal, right? I asked him when we will finally meet and he said he will call me and we can set something up. Leave me your comments below. Ive known this guy for over ten years. Any advice? These guys disappear. If he wants to text you all of the time & when I suggest we talk he never said to call . I met a guy online and the first 2 days we hit it off with texts. I met this guy on a Saturday night, I was out clubbing with my friends and he happened to be in the same place I was. You dont want to get hung up on a fantasy. We had talked on the phone only 4 different times , he said he loved my voice but later told me he did not like to talk on the phone so we did not. Hi, Ive been single for 5 years following my divorce and am a single mum. Always calls if possible. In person his sweet, funny super talkative and cute and all weve done is hugged. Ive made it clear from day 1 that I wanted someone that I could date and eventually be in a relationship with. He wont exchange phone numbers because he hates talking on the phone. They have many, many uses, and not just for guys. We ended up studying after that and I dropped her off and ended the night with a meaningful hug (instead of kiss), and both wanted to go on another date. Thanks so much Bobbi! Was that sweet and warm enough? Hi, Before we started dating, he was even able to text me on breaks during work. Sounds like a situation Im currently in. I was starting getting over him, but this text just changed everything, and I dont know what to do. He hasnt logged back on to the dating site since we started talking. Bp, Hi Bobbi, really enjoying what I am reading. Best. We have so much in common. The Delightful Difference Between Dating Mature Men and Boys. THAT is where decisions will be made about whether each of you wants to get together again. Dont waste any more time. We had tons of fun and he texted me this morning with: Super fun to see you last night, lisa you are good company! Can tell by their lack of effort, they are on line to surface chat, flirt, seek out an occasional hookup. Its only been 2 days since date, but Im feeling crappy. I met a guy on bumble and we have been seeing each other for a few months. However from what I know about men, he WAS telling you the truth. So Ive been talking to this guy I met online for a few weeks, mostly texting but we had phone conversations. Why Men Lie To You - Secret Surveys - What he wants you to know but won't ever tell you. Im beginning to wonder if hes telling me the truth or not. Bp, I started talking to a guy after he messaged me. He refused saying that he was not looking for casual specially with me neither willing to date. If youre looking for a relationship youre in the wrong place Bp. I have also seen his IG, do you think its a good idea to add him there too? He keeps saying he wants to see me again soon but he has a lot of preparation for his custody, paternity case, but he has texts how much he likes me and has even texted future plans for us as if we are going down the road to a long term relationship. He wanted to say hi but did said he thought that I would have thought he was a perv who wanted to talk to me. Do not give your address. What are your thoughts? He first suggested a 30 minute coffee date, and I told him that Im not interested in speed dating or checking people off my list. He text and said it was nice to meet you , thank you for meeting me. I thought this was Bobbi Palmers Blog!? Why did yall not go to NYE party together? Good for you, Amelia. What do you think? And from there on it was no call and no show, however his profile on line shows that he is active and always green, that he is online all the time. We both have busy lifestyles running cattle properties. He told me he would like to visit Europe and that he will come and visit me as soon as possible for him. I cannot stand tons of text messages with lots of personal information, especially with a man I have never met. We texted a bit and met for a date. He was really sweet. Next night. Hello, Just go on with your life and see what he does next, ok? Hi Tea. If you want something different youll have to have a conversation with him. I dont have any idea at all. You didnt know him and put so much into him. I texted him this morning saying when are we gonna try to hang out again and his response really bothered me um, dont know we will figure out a time and place.., Emilymove on! Ive been texting this guy I met online since July. Youll get your answer there. Will he notice this. Ask him! His primary mistake was to assume a relationship after one meeting that wasnt even a date. Im so happy to hear this, Audrey. Were both busy during the day. He bought me my fave chocolate bar which i feel was an excuse to come over to see me, unfortunately it was the night i couldnt make. I had gotten some no so good news earlier that day and that just piled on top of me not getting to see him. Your guy friends are correct. However, we reconnected few weeks later. Give him a little more time. Ask if he can do that. Dont hang your hat on this man but be open to seeing him again if he comes out the other end of his emergency. You went "all the way." (I'm presuming it was at sock-hop in 1952? Activity, but nothing ever seems to go beyond surface. Again, I dont discuss serious matters with strangers over the phone. Hi, I think him not trying to kiss you after two dates is great. Communications continue everyday without a phone call. There are clear signs when he IS into youCLICK THIS and find out how! During all of that time we continued to text every day. Confused, really felt a connection. He mentioned once that he could tell I love getting good morning texts. Hes 30s/confident, thought hed be direct. Then the complimentary texts started again for a couple of days. This guy is a complete gentleman 2nd date he came with chocolates, maybe Im falling into a game or maybe he is genuiwine? He is 40 and been married twice already. Its no use trying to figure out why men do what they do, LL. HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO NEXT!!! What should I do, Find someone who is truly interested in getting to know you, Bobbie. What is your advice to people in my situation regarding dating and texting intensity, as you say texting is for clarifying plan and updates? I tried to keep a bit conversation and the first days it was ok. Hugs. Are this normal? Most of the times, i reached out to him were about school applications which he was helping me, coz i dont want him to feel pressured). Am I the problem? Keep being open and trying to meet men. Ive done this from day one. (Actually I was so confused ). I started to like him but still had no real expectations and took it easy. But few, have to filter through so many BSers. Yes, you can tell him youre interested in getting to know him and texting isnt the best way. When I make subtle hints of seeing him again, he doesnt make a plan like before. Bp. If you havent met yet and spent some time together you no relationship. I am sick of the texting and l ferl that if he is interested, why not call me every day if there is no one in his life. Less is more in the text world. Its a waste. Just poof! He seems like a really great guy and I like him so far but we havent narrowed down a time to go out. Dont feel stupid, Debbie. Move on. But then hes a lot older than me. Bp. Both agreed that it wouldnt be an issue if we had sex. Id love a phone call when youve got time. Hes been constantly looking at my posts and liking everything. At first, we texted normally but just after three days he is being extremely sweet. Chemistry speaks volumes, and thats an unknown right now. Say yes. He has sent me some pictures of his daily life and its really cute of him to do that. The connection and chemistry was obvious to everyone. Since then he has kept it strictly text and now says he is uncomfortable seeing me until we can have a good text relationship. We went out on the scheduled day around noon and mutually had one of the best dates Ive ever had and had been single for about a year and half prior to this date. Hope. Men do it all of the time. He didnt say wasnt interested because he IS interested. Every now and then he may ask me WYD or HOW WAS/IS YOUR DAY? But nothing else. Sometimes things like these work. We sent a few emails and then immediately started texting. He is also going through a divorce. So I always initiated txting with him and were Christians so Im never flirty neither is he were both extremely kind to one another complement each other on our faith and encourage each other spiritually. Right now its probably the fantasy of him that youre really excited about. From what I can tell he has had his heart broken twice and that is the reason I think that he is afraid to have a relationship with me. I went on vacation last month, and on the first day of my three week vacation, this guy from an online dating site sends me a message. Bp, I met up with a guy through an online app and we hit it off pretty well. Ps I think he could be the real deal too -exciting! If that goes well, then get in the same room with him as soon as possible! Youre seeing flags, though, and its important that youre aware like that. Is he actually interested and just afraid, or is he playing? So the next day I said hi to him via text we chat hea responsive and wishes me luck in my job interview telling me not to worry but its been 9 days since our first date and no sign of a second other than him thinking of coming to see me!!! But now he wont see me it all and if he ever does decide he wants to do something and I tell him I have plans (which could be simply with the kids) he will just lol and disappear or make me feel guilty. We chat for hours on end on the dating site and he asked me for my number. I hope you can start taking better care of yourself and not allowing a guy to treat you like youre not at all important. He never asked me out for that for sure ! Now its January and hes leaving for Iraq in February. This on line dating has been a bear to say the least. If he liked me, he wouldnt wait a whole week. I am tired of always reaching out/seeming more interested but at the same time whats the harm? He has taken time to his office, to the park where he runs. When it comes to learning and understand men like this and beyond - it will be the best money you've ever invested in your dating life. Bp. If you like him and are willing to give him a chance, then respond with a positive thank you but no thank you. You want to say something like this: It would be great to see you, Bob, but I have plans tonight. 3 apologies. Vanessa, Like my coaching says heredont put too much significance on a text. Youll know what to do. I do feel like we are back in high school, but we are both 63 and I dont want to be in high school anymore. You answered your own question right here: I have gotten counseling on my own and have realized he is emotionally abusive. A runner in this context is a guy who bails quickly after revealing his feelings to a woman. You'll regret it if he ends up coming back to you. I said yes to the 2nd date but my gut is telling me something is quite not right because it is only texting since. Can we make that work? Put it out there, sister, and give him the chance to say Y or N. Youll learn a lot by his response. After he went on holidays back to his home in the states,he still tried to help me for my school applications which he encouraged me to get scholarship in the US. Im realizing that none of it was real even though it felt real . We havent seen each other in over three years, I now have a son. Next! And if he doesnt run with it, it just means he wasnt a good potential guy for you. There are so many ways to know if a man is a serious guy who is interested in getting to know you. Youre not even dating. I really like him but right now Im feeling patronized that I fell for his stupid lines. You know what he says lol.ok goodnight. We texted every single day. I didnt text him neither. I thought it was strange and friended him on Facebook and he actually blocked me. Dont waste time texting. I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, but my gut is telling me run the other way. Take the leap when the outcome is unknown. Im no fling. Things were going well until the Holidays. He replyed that he didnt see this coming and he just thought we would meet after my skiing trip.